Some Consequences

Bullying can destroy many lives. The lifestyle of a lot of people can be affected by

bullying. Usually others students, parents, teachers and others adults can be involved

in a bullying problem.  It usually occurs at school or after and boys are more likely to

get involved in physical bullying than girls.

The consequences on victims are short-term. They have a low esteem of themselves

and they have body damage. Sometimes their bodies are less resistant; they can get

sick more easily because of the psychological stress that bullies occur on them. In

some cases, the victim start to bully other persons to feel better or they commit a

suicide.  The effects on bullies are long-term. They are five times more likely than

victims to go in jail when they are adults. The bullies commit others crimes during

their pre-adult life, like stealing and getting involved in fights. This is why we have to

stop bullying.

How to solve this physical dilemma

Many people think that solving a bullying problem is easy but it is not as simple as it looks.
As a parent, when you found out that your child is getting bullied at school, there are several things you and your child can do to solve the problem.
First of all, you have to teach your kid to stay calm and never show the bully that he is scared when he walks near to your child. You should also teach your kid to set a boundary. If the bully is threatening your child, as a victim, your child has to tell him clearly and calmly to stop.
If the bully does not stop, your child should persistently tell a teacher about what is happening because sometimes, teachers do not take bullying seriously. It will stop the bully before it is too late.
As a last resort, your child must be able to physically protect himself from the bully. The objective is that your child can protect himself’ it is not to hurt the bully. You should register your child to self defence classes and tell him that it is only to protect him. Your child probably won’t even have to use his new skills. The objective of this is to make your child more self confident because he will be able to protect himself.
We hope those few advices will help you solve the problem.

Here are links to videos that have more advice to solve this problem:

                   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KlpOoFrHrc

                         http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12ZfEWkAFQ4

First comes bullying... then what?

Many think that physical bullying is the least harmful form of bullying because it is pretty obvious to spot and because physical wounds heal. This is true, but it is the wrong way to think...physical bullying also leaves emotional scars behind in the victim’s mind and heart that usually take

much longer to heal, if ever.

            Physical bullying has many effects:

-         On the bully: Often, the bully’s socialization skills are deficient when he becomes an adult because of his past. There are many difficulties the bully might encounter later in life, such as anger issues or a serious need of attention. Bullies might feel pride and superiority on the spot due to their power, but having to bully people to feel this way is a serious self-esteem dilemma.

-         On the victim: On top of physically scarring the victim, the bully also emotionally scars him and makes him feel uneasy. Victims can develop chest pains, stomach aches, headaches and acne due to the continuous feelings of anxiety regarding the bullying. Many are too frightened to tell their parents or their peers about the situation for fear that the bully might find out and hurt them even more than usual. This causes even higher anxiety, resulting in a serious loss of sleep and appetite, sudden ‘panic attacks’, a lack of trust and uncertainty. Other victims may react with responding violent behaviour to protect themselves and to be left alone. This may result in anger issues. All of these effects are due to the constant stress of feeling pinned by the bully. Some can become very sensitive and start having suicidal thoughts. They don’t want to continue living in this shame and terror. Reactions can be unpredictable, but emotional scars aren’t.

-         On the parents: Unfortunately, many schools don’t know how to cope very well and this usually frustrates parents who feel powerless to change the situation. These parents might feel bullied themselves.

Here are some videos that we find interesting on the effects of physical bullying:

                                 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fb0q8SL_kLY

                                 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ifh3Wu3W_lY&feature=related

Physical bullying's roots

This part of the Blog will explain to you where bullying starts and why bullies bully. Bullying starts off with one person; someone who is stronger, richer, better looking or having more authority than others. That one person will abuse the power of his position over people and hurt them for different reasons. These bullies bully for fun, because their bored or for some other explanation such as their victim’s skin color or his clothes. They are what I call ``Root Bullies``. These are the people who start everything. The victims of these bullies can’t stand up for themselves because of threats given to them and the fear of getting beaten up. They bully other people to gain a temporary feeling of being a winner in life even though they are also victims. This large group of people are what I like to call ``Victimized Bullies``. These people bully other people who will probably become Victimized Bullies like them. Now that you understand how bullying all started and why people bully, the rest of the Blog will explain other topics about physical bullying as well.

What exactly is physical bullying?

Physical bullying is a form of constant physical harassment where there is someone ‘weaker’ (the victim) and someone ‘stronger’ (the bully). It is easy to spot in public because of the obvious behaviours. This type of bullying includes frequently kicking, punching, pushing, hitting, slapping, choking, poking, pinching and destroying or stealing another’s personal belongings. The bully usually has a ‘win-lose’ mentality and always makes sure to be the winner by lowering his victim’s self-esteem by intentionally terrorizing him by threatening to hurt him. This type of bullying can scar the victim forever physically and emotionally. Physical bullying is more likely to be seen between boys, but it isn’t absent between girls. This type of bullying can be spotted at a young age for boys when they’re ‘play-fighting’, but mostly at older ages in high school. This type of bullying can also have an important impact on the bystanders who are sometimes there to witness it.

Who we are

           

            We are 8^th grade students in high school. We teamed up to talk and learn more about physical bullying as a school project. Hopefully, this blog will make you realise how easy it is to be a bully or a victim and how it can be prevented; it can be very dangerous! We also want you to understand the way physical bullying makes the different people who are touched by bullying feel and its consequences. We would like you to know that bullying is way too frequent and it needs to stop; 19 000 people die each year because of bullying which is about a death per half hour during a whole year. If we all work together and are more informed about this serious dilemma, we can change the way people think and react. We can save lives if we try, so please counter bullying when you see it and we’ll help as many hurt victims as possible.